The Darkness of April


The month of April is probably one of the happiest, most cheerful times of the year. Spring is bursting at the seams. For most of us, the temperatures are warmer, flowers are blooming, and grass and trees are becoming green again.

But one of our family’s darkest times came during the month of April, when we lost my sister, Rose,  to domestic violence. It was April 15, 1969, and she was just 30 years old.

Our mother’s birthday was April 17.  Understandably, in 1969, her birthday was non-existent. Except when the mail was delivered that day,  and there was a birthday card to her from Rose. It was postmarked April 15.  Mom taught everyone a lesson in strength during that time. 

The members of the family old enough to remember, especially my sister, June, and I,  will sense a hint of darkness today.

But the old saying is true. Time does heal the hurt.  Over the years, our family has learned to, once again, enjoy the beauty that April brings.

23 responses to “The Darkness of April

  1. It was a very dark, hard April in 1969. For me, it was even darker and harder in 1986 when my husband, Ed, died on April 21st. There’s always a slight shadow on the month of April. Time may not heal completely but it does dull the pain.

  2. I am sorry to read about your sister and hey, no woman should ever go through domestic violence. She may not be here now but she will always be in your heart.

  3. I’m so sorry. Here’s to hoping you find an abundance of beauty today and every day in April.

  4. A very nice post for today. Unfortunately, I came along after she was gone, so never knew her… But I’ve heard plenty of stories…….

  5. tragic. terrible. i hope her murderer was punished, if only to give you all some sort of… wow. there’s just no closure in that, is there…

  6. I remember that April and feeling so sorry for your family. But I didn’t fully understand the horror of it until a year and a half later when four men who had robbed a grocery store killed my brother while running away from their crime. My heart goes out to you and June today.

  7. Wow, what a terrible loss for your family. Your sister was beautiful. Thinking of you!

  8. I am so, so sorry for the loss of your sister. It’s never easy but to lose her to such a senseless crime must add insult to injury. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.

  9. Beautiful tribute to a wonderful cousin——jj

  10. Oh my…I totally understand how a certain day, time of year, etc. can be forever altered-year after year. While everyone else may be celebrating an event, holiday, or season, there is someone, somewhere, who has an aching heart for the loss of a loved one. Thoughts being sent your way…

  11. Wow, that is so sad…

  12. Happy to hear you have been able to find joy in this time of year after such a sad situation. Really tough stuff for your family.

  13. Dianne even though I wasn’t very old at the time I still remember the feeling of loss and confusion. And I most definitly remember visiting at Aunt Rose’s place and how much I enjoyed spending time with her.

  14. Such a tragic loss and I know you think about her all the time. And I am thinking of you.

  15. I remember you telling me that once, but had forgotten. I don’t think I will forget it anymore, because my sister’s birthday is the 15th of April. Thanks for posting that!

  16. My sister’s birthday is September 11. I was barely off the phone with her in 2001 when the first plane hit the towers. As she reminds us every year, it’s still a good day because it’s her birthday regardless of what else happened in the world.


  17. Sorry – forgot to leave my blog.

  18. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    I had no ideal you had losted a sister. Her picture is beautiful and I am sure her heart was also.

  19. I am so sorry for your loss on that dreadful day in 1969, especially due to domestic violence. I myself had come from an abused relationship and I was one of the ‘lucky’ ones, if you want to say that, that got away just in time before he was to take my life. I think that day I snapped and realized I shouldn’t be here anymore and I fought myself away from him knowing there was a chance I wasn’t going to win, but I thank god everyday for letting me get away. I know there are a lot of women out there, like your sister, that wasn’t so lucky. I don’t care what people say…’why didn’t she leave’ or ‘why didn’t you leave’ it isn’t easy at all. (I use to be the one who would say that) and someone really doesn’t know till they have gone through it. But I know I wouldn’t wish what I went through or what other women go through to my worst enemy. No one deserves that at all. Again sorry for your loss and so happy you are going on with happiness on April 15th.

    I just came across your blog and your blogs are great to read. Can’t wait to read more.

  20. I am so sorry for your loss, and very happy to know that you got through it. I lost my sister last year to Lupus, she was 35. I am happy to see that time does heal the hurt

  21. very sorry for your loss… had no idea. My condolences,

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