A Quote That Stuck

Today, I’m participating in Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop, and I chose this prompt.

1.) A quote from someone that has stuck with you.

It was June, 1980.  My son, Marshall, had been born five weeks prematurely, and in less than twelve hours had been transported by a neo-natal ambulance to the nearest children’s hospital.

He was having some breathing issues, and the doctors feared that, because he was a preemie, his lungs hadn’t had time to develop. But a birth weight of 6 pounds, 1 ounce at birth, and high Apgar scores were reasons to be optimistic about his overall health.

Since Marshall was born by Caesarean, I wasn’t able to accompany him to the children’s hospital. Soon after he arrived and was examined, the doctor called to tell me that his lungs (thankfully) were fully developed, but he had been born with double pneumonia. This was a much better scenario, because they could treat it with an antibiotic, and it wouldn’t require such a long hospital stay.

Even after hearing this good news, it was still difficult being in the hospital those five days- on the maternity floor – and having a roommate whose healthy baby was being brought to her on a regular basis.

One day, my ob-gyn came in my room while making his rounds, and found me crying. Being the compassionate doctor that he was, he sat at the foot of my bed and asked what was wrong. When I replied that I was worried about my baby, he said that he’d heard that he was doing well. Then he said this: “But you worried about him before he was born, and you’ll worry about him until the day you die”.

My doctor was, at the time, dad to two little boys, so he knew all about this parenting club, of which I was a brand new member.

marshalls first pic 10-30-2001 10-32-16 PM

To the sorrow of his many patients, my doctor retired a couple of years ago. But during one of my office visits a few years ago, I mentioned what he’d said that day, and that I’d always remembered it.

We agreed that, although the role of a parent changes through the years, worrying about your baby is a given…..no matter his age.

marshall and mom 5-11-2014 8-28-04 AM



Mama’s Losin’ It

~These Days Of Mine~

26 responses to “A Quote That Stuck

  1. Olde Towne Photos

    Sweet. I hadn’t realized that I worry about my baby, too. And she’s 39.

  2. What a kind thing he said to you that day and he was so right. The job of parenting is never-ending no matter how old they get and that includes worrying!


  3. Loved this one!! and so true!!

  4. I whole heartedly agree with that statement, and I’m still fairly new in the game. Sounds like he was an excellent doctor.

  5. I try to remember that I am still her baby when my mother sometimes “over-worries” about me! Someday I’ll miss having that, I know.

  6. Such a kind good man! Nice that you were able to tell him that you had always remembered what he has said to you.

  7. What a good quote to share! Thank you!

  8. This is so true. I’ll be 49 soon and my mother still worries about me. In fact, this morning she called me at my office because there was a tornado warning in our area and she wanted to make sure I was safe. 🙂

  9. No matter how old our children are, they’re still our ‘babies’ even if they’re the oldest child. A mother is a mother forever!

  10. Thanks very interesting blog!

  11. What a compassionate doctor. I find that I still pray for my girls everyday…now I’ve added their families.

  12. So very true! I still worry about my three even though they are fine, level-headed adults. When you join the parent club, it’s a life-time membership! By the way, you had a very wise and caring doctor.

  13. (smile) One quote I remember my mother telling me when she first met D1 was “Enjoy her now. They are loaned to you only for a little while.” So true, and your wise doctor’s quote is even more true. The worry is not for a little while.

  14. So true. They are yours forever and we are worrying mothers. But it’s a good thing. Wouldn’t have it any other way.

  15. indeed. i watched my mother pray and worry for each one of her 8 kids until her dying day.

  16. Wow…thanks for sharing Marshall’s story. And, your doctor’s words are so very true…..

  17. Definitely a quote for the ages ….
    I just couldn’t wait to get here ….!!

  18. That is a awesome quote! And so true! My oldest son was born with pneumonia too, so i know exactly what you’re talking about. I am so glad both our sons are okay. Here from Mama’s Losing It. 🙂

  19. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    What a lovely story and quote from your doctor. The worry never ends if you are the mother God meant for us to be. The good of being a mother far out weights the bad, at least that’s what I keep tell myself. My daughter is 44 and has moved back in for the second time with my youngest grandson!!!!!

  20. Thank goodness Marshall was a strong healthy baby. I can imagine your worry and heartache waiting for the moment to get him in your arms.
    The words the Dr spoke are absolutely true.

  21. This one brought me to tears Dianna because it is so true. And your story of first-time parenting and worry touched my heart.

  22. “Once a parent always a parent!” Loved the picture of wee baby Marshall. What a scary time for Momma! That last picture is just so sweet 🙂

  23. Aw, what a wise doctor (in many ways!) thanks for sharing your story xoxo

  24. Aw, what a wise doctor (in many ways) thanks for sharing! xoxo

  25. They kept us in the hospital for what seemed like forever then! I’m glad Marshall didn’t have to stay long, and you can still worry about him!

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