Just In Passing

Yesterday, on my way home, I stopped at a local gas station for fuel.  There was a small silver-colored car at the next pump, passenger side to me,  and the driver, a young man, was pumping gas.

As I waited for my tank to fill, I noticed the passenger in the car: a young woman, at first facing away from me, with her head leaning back against the headrest.

A few minutes later, she turned a little, enough for me to tell that she was crying. I could see her face was flushed, and  tears were streaming down her cheeks.

The young man finished pumping gas, got in the car, and they drove away.

And I wondered: why was she crying?

Had they had an argument?

Had  she been verbally abused?

Was she, as Motor Man later suggested, on her way home from a doctor’s appointment where she’d gotten bad news?

Or perhaps she had just gotten word of a death in the family?

Lost a cherished pet?

I doubt our paths will cross again, so I won’t ever know the cause of her tears. I can only hope it was the “least bad” of all the possibilities.

foggy morning 9-29-2014 9-06-22 AM

” Be kind; we don’t know what battles others are fighting.”   (unknown)

~These Days Of Mine~

19 responses to “Just In Passing

  1. It’s true…..we don’t ever know what burdens others are carrying unless we ask…..and we can’t often do that with strangers……but my bet is they’d had a lover’s tiff…..it’s not easy being young these days!


  2. That image would have stayed with me, too. I will pray for her.

  3. That’s something I’ve learned in all these years!! That person who appears so thoughtless and rude may be dealing with more pain and heartbreak they we can imagine. And those who look healthy may be dealing with excruciating physical pain.

  4. AMEN! Prayed for her – and him.

  5. That quote has always been one of my favorites, Dianna.

  6. Such a kind and sensitive heart you have, Dianna.

  7. Knowing your kind heart, I think that young lady will stay on your mind for awhile. Whatever her burden is, our hope is that it feels a little lighter today after we all pray for her. 🙂

  8. This is so true. Sometimes we can only pray for peace for the person suffering.

  9. a bit of kindness sent to her, because of you.

  10. I encountered a girl who worked at a store I frequent and she just looked so sad. Without thinking about it I just blurted out, “Whats wrong?” She started crying and proceeded to tell me the whole awful story of what she was going through. Then I started crying and felt bad that I asked her but then she said, “Thank you so much for letting me vent and cry.” Turns out she didn’t have any time or place to do it because at home she has her young children to care for and at work she has to be professional. I was glad to share her grief and hope it helped just a little bit. So you’re right. We never really know what people are going through and I guess it doesn’t hurt to ask when given the chance. My only words of advice to her was that I too have been through some “winters” in my life but know that “spring” will come again and with it “summer”.

  11. You reminded me of my favorite quote – If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.
    (Dali Lama)

  12. ? I suppose we’ll never know ?

  13. I lnow your kindness would have helped if you had connected with that poor girl.

  14. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    A heart felt blog, Dianna. Thank you for sharing we can only pray for this couple. Thank you for caring.

  15. This sounds like something I would do, wonder and worry… it is sad not to really know the reason for the tears. If the man didn’t seem abrupt or cranky, I think it may not be abuse. I had an angry man in my life, when he would carry out ‘tasks’ such as gas pumping, he would slam around and possibly swear a bit. (Outside the car, where others could hear him. No holds barred.) Having worked at a battered women’s shelter, this seemed to be the way women described fights, except while in a professional setting or where family might overhear. I am hoping she lost a pet or a distant elderly cousin. I like the ‘be kind’ quote!

  16. That is heartbreaking, and leaves one feeling so helpless. But we can always pray, and know things will get better.

  17. I know it sounds silly, but it is at times like when I was big and strong (I am small) so that I can boldly ask if there is a problem. However, sense has to prevail and one has to keep quiet, pray and hope that the situation gets better.

  18. Just the fact that you noticed when so many never bother…I’ll say thank you for her.

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