The “Ache” For Home

For Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop this week, I chose this prompt:

3. “The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned” ~ Maya Angelou.     Now write.

Although “home” has changed for me as the circumstances of my life have changed, the word seems to always bring back feelings of my childhood home.

Is it that way for everyone, I wonder?

And, because my dad died when I was an infant, and my sisters were grown and married by the time I was four, my childhood memories of home mostly revolve around my mom.

My earliest memories of her are ones of safety….someone to hide behind when I was scared or shy….someone to run to when I was hurt….someone to cry to when a kitty died or just disappeared.

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Or when I was teased at school or on the bus. She didn’t have a solution, but she listened and cared… and hurt right along with me.

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Through the years, I always knew I could go to her with any questions or problems, and I’d never be criticized or ridiculed for not knowing the answer or thinking the way I did.

We made it through the typically rough teenage years and came out the other side even closer than before.

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My last day “at home”

And because of Mom’s example, I’ve always tried to be Marshall’s safe place.

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As for the Maya Angelou quote,  home was Mom, and that was indeed the safe place I could always go “as I was”.

~These Days Of Mine~

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31 responses to “The “Ache” For Home

  1. Wonderful memories & pics of you and your mom♥ Thanks for sharing:)

  2. Dianne, what a wonderful, inspiring post. Made me cry early this morning…we had a fantastic mother. I know you still miss her as much as I do!! Love you…

  3. I miss Grandma so much! What a beautiful tribute to her! Thank you, Dianne!

  4. With tears rolling down my cheeks! That picture of little wee you, in your Mary Jane’s, delightfully holding your Mom’s hand – aww. That did it, the floodgates opened. What a beautiful post and devotion to your beloved Mother. Hugs, MJ

  5. Just lovely

  6. I love your story and pictures!

  7. The very definition of unconditional love. You can see how kind she was just by these photos, Dianna, thank you for sharing her with us.

  8. I absolutely love this post. Home is definitely where your mom is. The pictures are beautiful and you described it so that we all felt that we were there. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  9. So true. Although my house was full of family, and not just my mother, it is my mother that means home. And the love you and your mother have for each other shines through in all these photos.

  10. Touching and beautiful. The love and safety show through the pictures. She was a remarkable lady who raised a remarkable lady.

  11. That is so beautiful, I too always think of mum an dads place as home and still do even though they are both gone now.

  12. Loved this one – when I think of home – I think of my childhood home in Surry as well – and of course my amazing Mom who was always there – a source of wisdom and love – I really enjoyed the photos of you and your Mom – thanks for a lovely post!

  13. Like you, when I think of home, it takes me back to my childhood home. When my parents built their new home, I was an adult. It didn’t take me long to realize “home” really is where my parents were. They are the ones that made me feel accepted for who I was, to feel safe and loved.

    I enjoyed reading about the memories with your mother. What a treasure for you! I wrote on the same prompt, with a wide angle view.

  14. Beautiful post! I know your Marshall has to feel the same way about you! You had an excellent teacher on how to be a wonderful, loving mother. For me also, home meant mom. And even after mine passed away, her essence was still at home for the 10 years that Dad lived there alone.

  15. I wish I had known your mom. She sounds like my mother. Great post.

  16. What a wonderful tribute to your Mom. Memories of that special relationship will follow you forever, and have already transferred to a beautiful relationship with Marshall. Great post Dianna!

  17. Precious and sweet tribute to your Mom. 🙂

  18. You are very lucky to have wonderful memories of home. Sadly home was a place I couldn’t wait to get away from. It was not a safe place for me. But I did find other safe places and people to be with and I am thankful for those. It made me the strong woman I am today and to seek out surrogate mothers and good friends to surround myself and my boys with. It also made me a good mother to my sons. A mom I know they always feel safe with.

  19. & you have been … ; )
    Very well written ….

  20. Sweet post……..and I know Marshall does feel you are his “safe place” as well as Motor Man……….


  21. I really loved this post and the photos of you and your Mom. Just beautiful!

  22. Shirley Matthews Dunn

    Lovely post, Dianna. Love the pictures of you and your Mother. I had the pleasure of meeting her a few times and she was a strong and nice person.
    I must admit I do ache for our homes in Surry and my sweet Mama, Grandmother Matthews and Uncle (Albert). I always knew I was safe with them. ❤

  23. Diane, that was sweet. Our mom’s are the rock of any household with or without dad. I miss my mom too and wish everyday she were here to talk to about those secret things. My heart knows what you feel. I also liked the one picture with the big hat. I had a hat just like that on my first marriage. Those seventy’s! Great memories.

  24. Very sweet. A lovely post. So nice to have pictures to add to our memories.

  25. Beautiful pictures and memories of your mom and home. Home is a special place, indeed.

  26. jenpiercedwonderings

    What wonderful pictures and what wonderful memories! Even though I haven’t lived there in forever, I still call the place where I grew up “home”. Sometimes it gets confusing for my husband when I say I need to go home because there are so many places – many of them revolving around my mom, even though our relationship was strained and very distant until I was in my mid-20s.

  27. Beautiful post! Interesting how home is sometimes tied to a physical place, and sometimes is more closely connected to a specific person or relationship…just makes me realize that “home” is about many things and has many triggers in memory! ~ Sheila

  28. What a tribute to your mother. Stopping by from mama kats kelley at the road goes ever ever on

  29. What a beautiful tribute to your mom and I can’t get enough of the pictures. So much home in them as well.

  30. I love your picture of the last day “at home.”

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